if you see either of the two accs mentioned commenting somewhere, resist the urge to get into a fight with them and show them more grace than you might be inclined to otherwise
Someone who uses another's misfortune to excuse or defend their behavior is despicable. It's almost like they're unwittingly describing a hostage situation and by tagging faer roommates reminding them how they're dependent on faer so it also reads like a threat. This is not what a good person does.
