this is not to be apologetic or make excuses for people. it's to make room so that when you hear a survivor come forward, you can set aside the things that are already in your heart
let go of the idea that people are "good" or "bad". people are capable of all sorts of things and we all make choices that we are responsible for. that's it
i think a lot of people feel responsibility to retroactively change positive memories or experiences to negative ones when they hear something shocking about someone they trusted. but thats not what is being asked of you. it's discomfort and you can sit in it and mourn too
