Ignoring safewords is rape.
That's not an exaggeration; the definition of that word is literally a violation of consent.
If you aren't being heard by someone who has a dominant position over you, ask the community. We know better, we've probably been there, and we can help you understand ❤️
I have absolutely zero problems calling out shit and dangerous Doms. There is someone called Dabs who ignores safewords but you all keep going to him because he has a 7” dick.
Don’t.
My ex straight up would put a gag in your mouth, and declare that the safeword was hopscotch, then would ignore it if you didn't have perfect diction.
Safewords should be agreed upon by both parties, and should be simple and understood while muffled.
He also straight up left me tied up in his room for hours, his homphobic dad came home and physically assaulted me, and he claimed no responsibility for that bullshit.
I usually offer the traditional safe words of yellow and red, unless something else is specifically needed.
If speech is going to be muffled, or just as an alternative, I offer two or three (respectively) taps, grunts, or other action with the same meanings.
Red/three is always absolute.
