Rhi: Of course there are. It was about a year ago that Ralph Yarl was shot in the head twice for getting the wrong address. The homeowner felt scared of this 16 year old stranger who was just a little lost. His feeling of fear was incorrect and led him to do something awful.

feeling unsafe and being unsafe are not the same thing

I know this wasn't your goal, but folks with PTSD might disagree.

I'm sure many would but that doesn't make them correct. In fact, them having a propensity to form incorrect beliefs on this particular point might maybe be a hint as to why "PTSD" ends with a "D".

Are you saying that there are "incorrect" feelings? 🤨 I am definitely not seeking an argument, by the way. Just trying to understand your perspective.

Of course there are. It was about a year ago that Ralph Yarl was shot in the head twice for getting the wrong address. The homeowner felt scared of this 16 year old stranger who was just a little lost. His feeling of fear was incorrect and led him to do something awful.

Well, this feels like a pretty extreme example, but I'll room with it. I'm not comfortable judging another person's feelings but that doesn't mean their reaction or behavior based on those feelings is appropriate. Clearly this is an example of somebody who had the wrong response to an emotion.

No, it was straight up the wrong emotion. He was not a threat. It was incorrect. And even if no action was taken, the fear is still a negative. As someone who feels a lot of things, I hate to say it but sometimes you just have to go "these feelings are not based in reality" and ditch them.

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