every so often there’s a figure in a dear prudence letter who gets added to my list of people I’d like to set on fire with my mind. the husband in this first letter is an INSTANT addition: slate.com/advice/2024/...
Genuinely cannot imagine the absolute horror and humiliation of being married to and having a kid with a person who does this. And Prudie has forgiven him way too lightly for trying to incinerate that baby.
Surely she won’t be for long. In her position I would fight for sole custody (probably quite achievable given he nearly killed the child), change my name and the child’s if it was his, and emigrate.
He should definitely go to therapy, in any case. As for her, divorce hardly seems sufficient. I’d certainly want to ensure he could never be in sole charge of that kid again, and I think I’d probably emigrate.
I would be applying medical diagnoses based on the lack of empathy for his own child and partner here too... Not pretending fathers get postpartum depression to excuse unforgivable acts.
Well he can only see it as something that reflects badly on him, which it seems like he can't stand so has to make sure that he can present someone else as the bad guy. I wonder if there is a word for that.
