Listing people's bad deeds when they die is an accounting of how they lived. It is actually right to do. Those who were treated well by that person will offer their own accounting of how that person lived & list the good. No need to offer insincere condolences or to be inauthentically silent.
So true! Just yesterday two friends praised my husband and mentioned how kind and gentle he was when in fact his anger chased most ppl away. I have no idea how to respond each time.
I'm sorry you had that in your life.
Last year someone told me that my father had such a wonderful calm aura. He was a misogynistic narcissist who bullied his wife & beat his daughters in a heartbeat. It's possible he may have been a psychopath. It's... awkward.
Very sorry you had all that! I think my husband had a touch of misogynistic narcissism, but he also stopped short of physical violence. But his public persona was charming, until the other person did something he didn't like. So ppl who only knew him superficially never saw anything else.
They can be very good at hiding it. Even without physical abuse the mental and emotional abuse can be devastating enough to affect physical health. I hope your life is in a much better place now.
