i don’t think “it’s so easy to find the clit” jokes are funny.
i recognize that in most cases the clit is findable without much effort, don’t get me wrong.
i just know that that sort of shame around anatomical/sexual knowledge deficiencies prevents folks who may have genuine questions from asking.
hi my name is Sinéad and i didn’t know that i didn’t have a clit until a quarter of a century into my life because i didn’t know how to ask these sorts of questions about my own body.
i recognize that im definitely an outlier on the genitalia front, but just because the body someone lives in is uncommon doesn’t mean the possibility of genitalia which deviates from the norm should be dismissed from all conversations as “usually irrelevant”. like c’mon please.
if we wanna shame cishet man for being bad at sex, can we talk about lack of effort instead? shaming over lack of knowledge is just shitty.
lemme tell you these guys have not internalized “just find the clit” as anything other than a checkbox to prove they are good at sex. that’s not progress.
