I think a lot of interpersonal conflict specifically in internet spaces also comes from the discomfort of just disliking people. But it’s very normal to dislike people. It’s natural and it is not something you need to examine for it’s morality.
No to be like "kids today", but I do feel like a lot of young people now need to justify their dislike - be that for a person, or a media property - by having a reason it's morally right to do so. It can't be "X TV show sucks", or "I don't like X's vibe" anymore, it's "X is problematic"
Oh I know that, I wasn't referring to the black and white thinking being a My Generation thing, just the need to have (or invent) a moral justification for personal dislikes
also "i dislike this person and here's why" actually serves a purpose beyond sitting someone of their moral superiority (though im sure it is also used for that)
it emphasizes *why* you've established this boundary so people respect it
nobody wants to hear "aww c'mon they're not THAT bad"
This is certainly true, but outside of the realm of actual abusers, I’ve seen people make moralized justifications that are reachy and more importantly inconsistent. Like “I don’t like Emma, she eats Starbucks” while your best friend Sarah also does that, but “that’s different”
In my experience, being honest about having a personal distaste for a person or thing will usually elicit a “well that’s fair I guess” vs a hypocritical and flimsy moral justification, but YMMV I suppose
Okay then? Let then treat you like an asshole. Nobody should have to give explanations for their boundaries. Full stop. If someone needs an explanation in order to respect your boundaries then who is the real asshole here?
