it's gita time: I think a lot of interpersonal conflict specifically in internet spaces also comes from the discomfort of just disliking people. But it’s very normal to dislike people. It’s natural and it is not something you need to examine for it’s morality.

I think a lot of interpersonal conflict specifically in internet spaces also comes from the discomfort of just disliking people. But it’s very normal to dislike people. It’s natural and it is not something you need to examine for it’s morality.

I do not want to hang out with every single person on earth. Some of you bitches are very dumb!

it's true but i make up for it with my terrible personality

add that to getting a little dopamine heart for every zinger you fling in public and yea

imagining talking shit at the bar and every time you get off a banger a little heart floats in front of your head for all to see

I literally just watched the Star Trek next generation episode about everyone on the enterprise getting addicted to a game that makes you come a little bit when you beat a level

The Enterprise would crash into a moon within 12 hours because everyone just gooning and passed out on the holodeck

I can't tell if the game is magic or if the crew has just never played a video game before and they're just now experiencing what the rest of us went through in early childhood

This would fix me

you would fall to the dark side so quick

It really doesn't need to have a reason or a larger crisis! You can just go "ew" and block, it's quite fine!

"It's not a pretty face, I grant you, but underneath its flabby exterior is an enormous lack of character."

Thank you, I try my best to be

counterpoint: the people i dislike for reasons of petty jealousy, incompatible vibes, etc. are secret monsters and one day everyone else will recognize that and reward me for my diligence in exposing them

Then you will become an anime girl

my just rewards...

The secret of always having the moral superiority of being able to say “I never liked them anyway” when someone goes down is to never like anyone

It's wild because I guess I just don't have whatever that thing is in my brain that drives folks to turn someone into a Life Villain?

No to be like "kids today", but I do feel like a lot of young people now need to justify their dislike - be that for a person, or a media property - by having a reason it's morally right to do so. It can't be "X TV show sucks", or "I don't like X's vibe" anymore, it's "X is problematic"

black and white thinking is normal for young people, its not just kids today

Oh I know that, I wasn't referring to the black and white thinking being a My Generation thing, just the need to have (or invent) a moral justification for personal dislikes

eh i think people always did that, it just happened behind closed doors instead of on the public internet

also "i dislike this person and here's why" actually serves a purpose beyond sitting someone of their moral superiority (though im sure it is also used for that) it emphasizes *why* you've established this boundary so people respect it nobody wants to hear "aww c'mon they're not THAT bad"

This is certainly true, but outside of the realm of actual abusers, I’ve seen people make moralized justifications that are reachy and more importantly inconsistent. Like “I don’t like Emma, she eats Starbucks” while your best friend Sarah also does that, but “that’s different”

also the terminology and ability to look up ammunition has changed so a guy in the 80s didn't like david bowie because he was "faggy" but now it's because he was too into nietzsche and blavatsky during his edgelord esotericism phase

I think the way culture has assessed things has drastically changed as “customer reviews” and media criticism have become a thing but the general idea of commenting or judging various subjects would be very ancient

Also I think there’s been a recent rise in consumption as moral expression where the mode through which people express their values is increasingly tied (or even synonymous) with what they choose to consume. The idea of boycotts not as collective action to elicit a specific response, but a moral act

My most GenX thing is that you all suck, and so do I.

whatever

Each generation sucks in new and innovative ways based on the world in which we were born and shaped, but what else is new

I remember being that young know it all. I was so smart it hurt! Now I know better.

Expanding brain meme with the following series of statements: 1. "Everything is black/white" 2. "Everything is shades of grey" 3. "No, sometimes some things really are black/white" 4. "Some things may in fact be black/white, but this particular thing is a shade of grey"

I feel like people get tired of hearing 2 so often that they jump from 3 back to 1, preventing them from ever being able to proceed to 4

sometimes a cigar is just a cigar *deepthroats cigar*

a lot of people get taken to task for saying "this movie sucks" instead of carefully couching it in 1000 layers of "I simply consider this movie to be bad, IN MY OPINION, it's OK if you like it though, it's just not for me," and they learn to stop being vocal about their opinions. and it sucks ass

If your dislike isnt couched in the language of social justice and a humanities degree do you really dislike them tho

You know I love my liberal arts college education but maybe we need to just shut the whole thing down until we know what’s going on

Also discomfort in people disliking you. It’s a hard one to sit in but important.

Im an acquired taste and proud of it tbh

Yeah it’s fun being marmite

Is it? I just took it as normal since I don’t like most people either.

When teaching, I tried to model the “not everybody has to like me (implied: or everybody else) and if we all liked the same thing/person that would be boring.” I was fine with students disliking me. I’m not to everyone’s taste. And I’m quite bland on first meeting (I hide my personality at 1st).

that leads to a lot of people being fake too which is extremely grating

I really don’t have a tolerance for that too

i’ve been on the receiving end of social climbers going from hugs to icing me out and it’s like?? be consistent babe!

Definitely something I've been trying to preach that you can dislike someone without it being a moral judgment and if you're disliked by someone the same applies. Sometimes behaviors, personalities, etc are just a mismatch and that's FINE.

I believe this also ties heavily into this societal belief that being wrong about something is also a personal failing. And like, NO, being wrong is normal. It is how you handled being wrong that matters. Again amplified in online spaces (doubling down all the time)

I know I keep saying this but I literally think this is part of the whole fandom = identity thing. Because of the way we see identity, we now have to MORALLY justify dislike or mild annoyance in order to convince ourselves we're not Bad People, and that's fucked up

You don't need a reason to dislike people! There are perfectly wonderful people out there you'll find detestable for NO REASON, you just don't click with them! Stop trying to justify your dislike after the fact by convincing yourself they must be a terrible person!

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