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my mom used to hold my face in her hands & tell me that she knew i didn’t think i was pretty, but i really was, w the saddest look in her eyes. when i was a teen, she told me my dad thought i was “cute, but not beautiful”. nowadays she just looks at me in amazement & says i’m “aging well” lmfao
sometimes I forget that in my town/ area I’m an easy 10 in my pjs whereas if I stepped foot in a bigger city, I’d be like a solid 8 even with all my make up done lol
there are good men out there tho. i know quite a few of them. some had to fight harder than others to recognize & overcome issues w how they saw and used women. but if u care, you’ll do it. we gonna need everybody lol
that’s that shit i despise the most. hypocrites who think they can’t be misogynists bc they love their wife or their mom or their daughter & they know all the buzzwords & believe women!!! but have no problem treating sex workers as objects, or cracking misogynist jokes abt women they hate
for men who actually are capable of seeing women as independent people w rich inner lives, they don’t get the scope of misogyny bc it doesn’t happen to them. but even for men who DO see the women in their lives as people…. they might still be totally comfortable dehumanizing women they don’t like
i’m reposting the lovely Journey Arc i had this year in unpacking all the ways i was affected by less overt. more pervasive misogyny and objectification lol
i’m reposting the lovely Journey Arc i had this year in unpacking all the ways i was affected by less overt. more pervasive misogyny and objectification lol
so much of my teens & twenties were spent performing sexual availability in social settings bc otherwise most men treat u like ur worthless. even doing my very best cool girl impression, quite a lot of them treated me like i was worthless anyway lol. socializing without doing that feels strange tbh
to recognize toxic masculinity or ingrained misogyny in yourself is not a weakness or a defect. it pervades culture at such a deep level it is almost impossible to escape it. but it is possible to consciously recognize it & take responsibility for it.
i spent so long thinking my worth as a person was dependent on my sexual availability or attractiveness & it’s just nice to have people in my life where i don’t feel that pressure at all. part of that is aging but part of it is also a conscious choice to kinda cool it on leading w my sexuality lol
learning not to lean too hard on my sexual availability, while still being true to Who I Am as a person, has been a process. it’s an uphill battle against being objectified. but i like talking about it. i like being publicly wholesome & multidimensional but also just. bonkers horny lol
the past couple years have kinda been me coming to terms with my horny levels (insatiable) vs how my sexuality has been exploited & used against me by men, esp as a teen & young adult. how being sexually adventurous set me up for an abuser who convinced me no man but him would want a slut like me
