Flirtatiously: "want to be ideologically opposed in a way that is meaningful and contentious, but ultimately doesn't require us to compromise the parts of those ideals to find a bridge do heated and passionate shouting that looks like it might turn physically violent but never quite makes it?"
Oh no, I was being cute, now I'm like "do I just say 'Enemies-To-Lovers' here? Like it's the correct answer, but it sounds kinda like I'm just being facetious."