Let's be honest and say that the sort of person who thinks it's rude to expect a guest to comply with a polite request regarding one's home is the sort of person you don't want stepping foot into where you live, they will likely light up a cigarette and leave the door open so your cat can run out
There's a line in Logue's Iliad poems something like:
The host requires the guest to make himself at home,
The guest remembers he is not
Apparently somebody forgot the second part.