Let's be honest and say that the sort of person who thinks it's rude to expect a guest to comply with a polite request regarding one's home is the sort of person you don't want stepping foot into where you live, they will likely light up a cigarette and leave the door open so your cat can run out
I bet she's traipsed dog poop through somebody's house and spilt Mountain Dew on the sofa.
This reads like a big "I'm not the one in the wrong here" rationalisation.
Some of this feels like the sort of thing that only survives within a very particular mannered set of car-to-paving-to-front-door Entertainers™ who're also maintaining norms from the mansion-and-maids set of a century ago, but (probably) without the maids.
