good morning, beautiful queers
(yes, that includes you, even if you don't think so)
on this twenty-sixth day of Pride
tell me something you love about being queer
I'll start
i spent 30 years of my life thinking there was something wrong with me
then I discovered my queerness, and really started to explore it
and I found a person inside who I really like, who I think is hot, and who i love to present to the world.
this is maybe (almost certainly!) corny but
i have learned i have a far greater capacity for love and pleasure and connection than i ever thought possible
Everyone in the community understands the personal struggle with coming out. All of our stories are different, but we all empathize with each other, because we've all done it in some capacity.
If you come out later in life you still get support, love, and a community.
I can feel truly loved and truly loving to other people.
Not burdened with cishet expectations.
Not scared that someone will "find out I'm weird."
No longer agonizing over whether I'm doing my gender "right."
That beautiful click of "oh so much about my life up to this point makes more sense" that came with realizing it. Being a part of a community who understands that.
I love how we immediately upon meeting understand each other on a level that cishet people need years of communication for (which they don't do). It's like we're all in a secret society with secret handshakes and a secret language. Same goes for neurodiversity and other marginalizations. 💚
No lie, one of my favorite things about being queer is when I confound the expectations of my friends or family and I can actually *watch* as they start re-evaluating shit in real time
"Oh I thought... hey why *did* I think that, wait a second..."
A bunch of my uncomfortablenesses making *a lot* more sense in hindsight within the context of my specific combination of queernesses. And becoming significantly less uncomfortable once I made these realizations.
