Why are you LGBTQ+? Correct answers only
I spent 15 years having a little voice in the back of my head whispering about being a girl and then when I tried to explore it, it switched to burning shame, repression, and repeating the cycle.
Only way I could stop it was to stop being ashamed and be Me.
As for how I became a lesbian, I realized about 20 minutes after coming out that I still only like women and then, over time, realized that while I actually like people who maybe aren't women I know I don't like cis men and whoever I'm with, it's some Lesbian Bullshit
Of the 3 cis dudes I hooked up with regularly when I was in my initial gender fuckery phase, as of now, one is a woman, one is nb, and the other is actually still really cis and gay but now we tease each other about ruining each other's respective "Gold star" statuses.
I'm in the process of discovering this one for myself. I like women and people who aren't women. I don't think I have an interest in cis men, and if I do it's like once every 7 years lmao. I just haven't been with enough people to actually understand my own feelings.
Honestly it's just about finding a label (or lack of one!) that feels good
There will always be prescriptivists who think sexualities are rigid and hyper specific but we're all different and have our own relationships to our sexualities. Take your time and figure out what that means for Kris!
Yeah! I liked labels for a long time cause they helped me understand myself, but I've realized my identity and feelings are always changing and I hate the idea of having to constantly find new labels for myself. A general umbrella of "queer and trans" fits me perfectly.
Which, to be clear, is not shitting on cis dudes. Some of the most wonderful people in my life are cis men! The hate they get when people talk about sexuality is shitty!
I'm just not attracted to them at all and that'd okay
I feel similarly towards cis dudes that I do towards people who aren't creative professionals. I can vibe no sweat, it doesn't have to be your bag, but you have to at least have some interest or have experimented with it in order to catch my interest. Otherwise, it's just not my bag.
