As a social media skeptic, I enjoy these articles about people giving up dating apps and touching grass. But I really think they downplay the enshittification process.
I don't care what the executives say. Of course the algorithm refuses to match compatible people.
www.vox.com/even-better/...
If you meet someone and fall in love, you will delete the app! Their entire business model is keeping engagement up. So of course all they will serve up to female users is a non-stop stream of fuckboys.
I bet having a good job and interesting hobbies kills you on the algorithm, if you're a man.
So, I actually wasn't trying to be sarcastic or gotcha on you. I'm sorry if it came across that way. My experience is that men with good jobs and interesting hobbies are in shorter supply numerically than women with same, and that is one (but only 1) reason apps are hard for women.
Sorry if I misunderstood. I have no doubt that eligible men are in shorter supply than eligible women. But my point is that they would have every reason to use the apps, too, but I suspect the algorithm pushes them down compared to guys who blanket women with "wassup".
I've heard that men also have a terrible experience, being fed a lot of fake accounts and boring women they have nothing in common with.
And I am very certain a lot of fantastic women are on the apps. They're just buried by the algorithm.
I use the unpaid version of Bumble and a few days ago swiped through three clearly AI-generated copypasta profiles in a row, two of which had nearly-identical images. At this point my default tactic is just, “hope to randomly meet someone while pursuing my interests & hobbies.”
Think that's too cynical. I'm sure the algorithm does amplify pushy guys because they're giving it stuff to amplify. No one thinks dating apps are a good way to meet a future spouse. They're on the "this person is x metres away" app because they're looking to hook up. And fuckboys are fine for that.
