After decades of writing, I’m ok on basic grammar and usage. But my brain refuses to learn the uses of ‘affect’ vs ‘effect.’ C’mon brain, I’ve looked this up 700 times. Time to retain this shit.
(If this is unwelcome intrusion, apologies, ignore me!)
The way to remember, imo, is think of he/she/it. You wouldn't write hi's or her's for a possessive, so don't write it's.
For the past decade, I’ve been trying to come to terms with the idea that I’ll never learn the difference, but somehow I still look it up convinced that THIS time it’ll stick.
I have a handful of words I have to look up every time I encounter them. "Bespoke" is the most recent one I encountered.
What's so hard about this for me? It's just a fancy word for "custom," which I know because I just looked it up again!
I’ve got it down pat and I always pick the right one but it always LOOKS wrong anyway, and so I have to sit there and stare at it and think it through until I can convince myself it’s right
Even when I take the time to look up both words, there are sentences when I know I want to use one of them but am not sure which one is more appropriate.
I'm of the mindset that we just fuse the two and make the spelling interchangeable at this point. Language is malleable, so why not sand off the rough bits?
The way I remember it:
Fuck Around, Find Out
Fucking Around is the A(ffect), Finding Out is the E(ffect)
Action to Effect
What you did to what happened as a result