Lotta socially isolated white folks have this idea that community runs only one way, and I think they have not really grappled with the fact that communities that support you will also, (rightly) judge you, especially if you don't give back in turn.
(My personal blackpill on this has been 'the return of oh-who-cares attitudes about STIs' in kink circles, which is just stunningly dumb and irresponsible. At that point you are a bad person, you should feel bad, and I will shame you like crazy.)
I think it's related to the general organizational breakdown in these circles, it's just about impossible to enforce more than basic rules at a venue these days.
That makes sense. Only reason my prude ass even started to hear about it is those people eventually end up in general LGBT circles and it causes issues.
