Since I've gotten some people saying that shaming kids for shitty behavior is immoral, all I'm going to say is: if you refuse to ever shame anyone you end up with a society that tolerates shameful behavior. A lot of people actually *need* to be shamed. I've needed to be shamed sometimes!
Shame can be abused, but I firmly believe that shame itself isn't abusive. Shaming someone is about making it clear that their behavior is bad and if they continue to do it people won't want anything to do with them. It's better than most alternatives to enforce social norms.
If fines mean that a law only exists for the poor, jail is unconscionable, counseling only works on those who already know the thing they're doing is wrong, and shame is abuse, hell, I see why that prisonculture lady's arguing for lynch mobs- it's all you have left.
Lotta socially isolated white folks have this idea that community runs only one way, and I think they have not really grappled with the fact that communities that support you will also, (rightly) judge you, especially if you don't give back in turn.
(My personal blackpill on this has been 'the return of oh-who-cares attitudes about STIs' in kink circles, which is just stunningly dumb and irresponsible. At that point you are a bad person, you should feel bad, and I will shame you like crazy.)
I think it's related to the general organizational breakdown in these circles, it's just about impossible to enforce more than basic rules at a venue these days.
That makes sense. Only reason my prude ass even started to hear about it is those people eventually end up in general LGBT circles and it causes issues.
