Lila 🏳️‍⚧️

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So cool!

THERE'S A TWIST IN PSYCHO?!?! Now I'll never see it. 😞

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Aurora, gradually and then suddenly

Definitely ask, yeah.

Oh yeah, she told my manager that I had said something negative to her about her outfit at a work event. 😯 I would never, ofc. Do I have to say "I am trans and I am terrified about how literally ANY conversation about clothing will go?" Again, fortunately, my manager knows this. But seriously WTF?

The negativity on my review, which was sharp, was from a colleague who is usually very kind. (When I came out to the team a year ago she gave me a warm hug.) It wasn't just me - she's suddenly nasty to everyone. Fortunately my manager told me to forget about it. But it's really puzzling and weird.

Things are a lot better today. 💁‍♀️

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Dr. Nyri A. Bakkalian

I wonder if there are recordings of his habit of verbally reaming out underlings while sitting on the can.

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optiMSTie

Reminds me of Ebert's evisceration of Vincent Gallo. After Gallo called Ebert fat, "Paraphrasing a statement attributed to Winston Churchill, Ebert responded with, 'It is true that I am fat, but one day I will be thin, and he will still be the director of The Brown Bunny.'"

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Jessalyn Matthews 🏳️‍⚧️

Everyone will have their own attempts at answers. I can only give my own, which is that my transition is not theirs to take away. It's not a product of medicine or clothes or surgery. It's where it's always been: inside me. And until they kill me, I will find a way to keep it alive. 🫂

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Piratedan7

One of the all time best, and it's great that they were able to go out on a high note.

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Jessalyn Matthews 🏳️‍⚧️

We're all there, if that's any comfort. 🫂

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Emily 404 Not Found

Our country (and probably yours too) is filled with big white dudes angry about petty "injustices" that were done to them and eager to take it out on other people. Like Vance, they are primed to fall in line behind an abusive authoritarian. I don't know how we ever solve the underlying problem.

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Emily 404 Not Found

Those are great! An inch is a lot! 🎉

Thanks for the sympathy, everyone. I've cycled through all the emotions and woke up feeling stronger and like I want to have it out about this. The truth is that it wasn't a bad review overall, & I think I have some leverage. What I'm unhappy about is having to (metaphorically) mask. So I won't.

Well, there it is. The performance review saying "you have seemed more distracted lately. Perhaps it's the personal transitions happening at home..." I know that "masculine" and "dull, dutiful, professional" are related concepts in the minds of my colleagues. But I'm just too tired to care.

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Shoshana 🏳️‍⚧️

Oh, yeah! #70sKidsJokes

Good news, I was too morose to check here religiously and seem to have avoided whatever new discourse was floating around. I win the internet today.

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Jenni (An Oklahomo Girl) 🏳️‍⚧️

I can only add my wishes for healing to the pile. What a fucking nightmare.

Rethinking everything tonight. Everything.

When I was in college, Ivan Brunetti made a cartoon for the student newspaper called "10 reasons not to kill yourself right this second." The joke was that he ran out after only 7 things. I am thinking about this cartoon way too much today.

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Aaron Sofaer 🏳️‍⚧️

From Helen Gahagan to… (I learned a lot of mid century politics from that album!)

Also, PSA: you must ALWAYS resist any effort at “candor” in writing about your workmates for the bosses. Be sweet as pie, no matter what. “Candor” is code for “make each other feel bad so you won’t ask for a raise or a promotion for being good at your job.”

I'm not even lazy, but I am tired of pretending. Which is dangerous.

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Jenni (An Oklahomo Girl) 🏳️‍⚧️

It might also not be safe not to, since he is escalating. I don't want to second-guess your situation, though; that is scary af.

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Jenni (An Oklahomo Girl) 🏳️‍⚧️

This is a unbelievably horrible situation 🫂 and I just think off the top of my head, does he have a wife? Who might be interested in seeing his letter to you?

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Dr. Nyri A. Bakkalian

I mean, it’s not like I am still bitter about it 20 years later or anything in ways that manifest in my dreams.. not that. Anyway, 🫂

Had a dream that I left grad school because I was overwhelmed and didn’t understand the courses. Immediately afterwards, had ANOTHER dream that I was kicked out of ANOTHER grad school because a prof didn’t like me. (I did great in grad school. It was the “get a job after” part that I failed.)

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Lux Alptraum לקס אלפטראום

The media is fundamentally broken.

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optiMSTie

It was really well written and performed. It's supposed to be Matt's first outing at doing this, so hopefully he'll be encouraged to make more!

Ugh, the day of "don't let your political views tear apart your friendships!" posts on FB. I want to say, "sorry, I can't help but take personally that one of them wants me dead." However, this is a friend who's been converted to vote against Il Douchebag this year. So I should be nice.