seeing that 60 minutes clip where donald sutherland is choking up recounting how his mother told him his face "had character" when he was a kid is killing me. the way beauty and the obsession with it eats away at people is abominable
I thought he was good looking precisely *because* his face had character. There are a million "conventionally attractive" people with utterly forgettable faces.
Prime example is Jennifer Grey. She got a nose job after Dirty Dancing, then needed a second one to fix a problem the first one caused and it was more drastic than she expected. She came out still beautiful but basically unrecognizable.
YESSS! since i was a child, people always complimented my smarts, or my “personality”. even my parents complimented me more this way than on “objective” beauty. for a while (like in my teens), i would faqn over anyone who said i was pretty. today i get that it’s not all, but social standards suck
and he was around 81 when he talked about that, decades after success and happiness … we carry pain with us, and we may forget it for a while, but we always carry it
I'll always remember in high school 20+ years ago when I told my mom that I wanted to act, and her response was "Billy, you're no Tom Cruise". I instantly dropped the thought. Props to Sutherland for fighting through that embedded insecurity to have one hell of a career.
