I think waffles discourse/“how dare you talk about your thing without acknowledging MY thing” happens because we turned our interior monologues into firehoses and now our tragic mammal brains believe this means everyone is fully aware our shit but callously consciously chooses to ignore it
yeah i think it’s more this, not that people think “you know my thoughts - how dare,” but that people think posts they see are THEIR inner monologue — “you ARE my thoughts, how dare!”
I find a great and enduring sense of peace and serenity in my firm belief that nobody knows or gives a shit about what I am posting here or anywhere else.
I was just reading a comment on a doxxing (maybe?) controversy that I really know nothing about (and don’t need to, it was very confusing but I did not know anyone involved) that was essentially “but we all know [controversy] now” and I was like, no, no “we” do not.
(It also tracks with a corporate tendency I’ve found with the terminally b-schooled who do not understand the difference between people knowing something about data / data systems and that knowledge being part of the data / data system and available for computation.)
I feel like I miss A Discourse every day on Bluesky! The only person I am consistently aware of is my husband and that’s because he texts me his posts!
Among the most important things everyone is supposed to learn early on is that, mostly, no one is paying attention to you and, if they are, they won't remember anything much later.
A fundamental problem with communication is that we understand what we want to say and what it means to us, but the person we talk to doesn't. How to cross that chasm? So easy to get wrong. But when talking to multiple people at once, no one will be understood the way they want to be.
