Can you stay with an alcoholic partner as they get sober? You can. I’ve done it. It sucks. Newly sober people are often emotionally volatile. Not their fault! They are relearning coping skills! But if you have your own healing to do it’s HARD to do so while dealing w the brunt of their instability.
Until I got to the second paragraph, I had convinced myself she meant "accidents" like he stumbled in drunk and broke a vase or knocked over the trash bin. Not accidents like this man is peeing on your carpet!
I genuinely thought it was going to be a heartfelt and conflicted post about a man with a rare and embarrassing medical condition he’s scared and ashamed to seek treatment for and uh. nope.
The way she refers to his alcoholism like it's a disability he can't control was too much. "Is this just something alcoholics do?" "Sweetie, the alcoholism is the issue, not how to mitigate his blackouts when they happen like they're seizures".
I feel like this is partly creative writing... but also my ex regularly had crushes on dudes at least that fucked-up, so we may be looking at nutcase symbiosis here.
Fun fact, the stories of people who do weird stuff while on ambien comes from the fact that it effects the same neuroreceptors that being blackout drunk does, but without the intoxication. What both do is cause anterograde amnesia (can’t form new memories). Which could be mistaken for sleep talking.
Not really. He 100% needs a sleep study, but I’d bet the booze makes the sleepwalking worse.
But also… the difference to a naïve outsider between a blackout (he stops making memories) and sleep-walking etc can be very fine and not easily determined.
He’s still a gigolo peeing on her stuff.
Honestly having read so many as a hobby there's 3 types.
1. Fakers, people posting for creative writing, trolling, or whatever.
2. People who desperately want people to help them 'fix' the unfixable. To give them the answer they want - if you do X all will be well.
3. People who need ...
other people, esp if they're being gaslit, to tell them it's okay, they're not crazy or bad, and to goooooo. And esp to help them find resources to do so for many SAHP who may not have financial and personal resources.
I mean on the bad ones.
I think it's one of the greatest things of the 'net
Not Reddit but a different community’s horrified responses made me realize that my question of “how do I help my abusive out of control husband without making him angrier?” meant that I had basically lost the plot of a normal living situation
Alcoholism is really fucking bad. Peeing in drawers, peeing in the silverware, peeing in the corner. All more common than you'd think. Don't date alcoholics. Especially ones who aren't seriously trying to get better.
It’s not that, I’ve seen this same post down to small details, a few words changed. But it could possibly be a very similar guy. 😑
I was an alcoholic (been sober over a decade now) and while I didn’t pee anywhere randomly I sure wasn’t the best company, and I don’t dispute your dating advice.
I'm not remembering a friend who broke up with a dude after he TWICE got really drunk, woke up in the middle of the night, stood up, pissed all over the bed and then passed back out. IN THE PISS BED.
oooooOOOOOF if he gets sober and quits pissing in the file cabinet she can take him back? he's great except I had to get another birth certificate and Social Security card because he missed the toilet by two rooms?
